As the days wind down to the moment that you will walk down the aisle towards the rest of your life, we can only imagine that you’re getting a little nervous. We don’t mean “nervous” in the sense that you’re catching a case of cold feet and worrying that you’re making a mistake, (at least we hope) we’re talking about the kind of nervous that makes you wonder about the unknown. Sure, you’ve been together for X amount of years, but marriage is a whole other ball game and once you say, “I do”, you are making a promise that you will try your hardest every day to make it work.
So how do you do that? How can you set the nerves aside and remain confident that this person and the love that you share is strong enough to last forever? Well there are signs, of course!
The Gut Feeling – According to a report from Time, a group a scientists were able to measure how happy couples were simply by showing them various pictures and asking them to rate them as happy or sad immediately after asking them to look at pictures of their spouses. Couples who look a while to rate pictures as sad were perceived to be happy, while those who quickly identified the pictures as sad ended up breaking up. The reason? Subconsciously, unhappy couples were already sad from looking at the pictures of their spouses.
Being With Him Makes You Better – Think back to the kind of person that you were before you started dating your fiancé; were you the amazing person that you are now? Were you as secure and as confident? If you wake up every day and know that the person you are with plays a huge role in how you became the person you currently are (and it’s a good thing) then you have chosen right.
Make Your Own Happiness – The above point is only relevant if you are not relying on your fiancé to make the sun come up. You must remember that while marriage is absolutely supposed to be a source of happiness for you and your life, you should definitely not rely on marriage alone to make you happy.
Your Expectations are Realistic – According to Glamour Magazine, one of the best ways to tell if your relationship will last is if you display realist views about each other and the relationship as a whole. This means that you aren’t grasping tight to a life of pure bliss and perfection. Go into your marriage accepting your fiancé for who they really are and not for whom you think you can change them into over time.
You Dream of the Future Together – Live in the moment and enjoy what you have now, of course, but dreaming about your future together ensures that you actually have a future together. Make plans, set goals and check in together along the way to make sure that that connection you share over these plans is still alive.
At the end of it all, if you have all of these things and a strong sense of unconditional love for one another, there is absolutely no reason to worry that this love that you have isn’t a forever kind of thing.
(Source: Yahoo! Shine)