The minute you agree to be the maid of honor in your best friend’s wedding, you take on a world of responsibility. Of course, there is a ton of fun to be had in the roll (hello bachelorette party!), it’s important not to lose track of the fact that a lot is riding on your shoulders when it comes to being there for the bride.
You’ve been there with her all along and you know how stressed out she’s been during the planning process. So when the big day finally arrives, remember that your number one duty as MOH is to ensure that the bride is relaxed and as happy as possible. To help you make that possible, here’s a quick run-through of some of your morning-of responsibilities as maid of honor:
Make Yourself the Go-To Person – Everyone knows the one golden rule on the wedding day: if there is a problem, call anyone but the bride. If there is no wedding planner, take that role and make sure that all vendors and guests have access to your phone number in case any issues or questions arise.
Keep Everyone on Schedule – Make sure you are aware of what time the bride and bridesmaids need to be ready for hair/makeup, what time you all need to head over to the ceremony location, etc. This will help you to keep everyone on track so the bride doesn’t have to stress about being late to her own wedding.
Make Sure the Bride Eats – Because the bride and groom will be so busy taking pictures and thanking guests for coming at the reception, she might not have a chance to sit down and eat dinner. To avoid any issues later on when the bar opens, make sure she gets something in her stomach and has a good, healthy breakfast in the morning.
Get Her Dressed – Her dress probably costs about three or four months-worth of rent – she’s going to be nervous about putting it on. Before you do anything, make sure you check that you have everything from her undergarments to her accessories laid out and ready to wear as soon as she’s ready. If you’re all scrambling at the last minute to find a missing earring, she’s going to go into hysterics.
Your Maid of Honor Speech – This is your big moment at the reception – you cannot forget to write and pack your speech somewhere safe. You may think that you can just wing it on the spot but once you stand up in front of hundreds of guests with a microphone in your hand, your nerves might kick in. Write your speech on a physical notecard and pack it in your clutch for safe keeping, but also be sure to email a copy to yourself and save it to your smartphone, just in case.
While being a maid of honor is a huge responsibility, it’s also a huge honor and you should be proud of your title! At the end of the day, your most important responsibility is ensuring that the bride has fun and is as happy as possible – but don’t forget to have a ton of fun yourself!