While we don’t always want to assume that every man out there has little to no interest in the wedding planning process, there are certainly quite a few of them out there. So what do you do if your fiancé falls under the couldn’t-care-less category? Don’t give up. Chances are you’re not going to get him to voice his opinion about every single aspect of your wedding day, but there are ways to at least get him to pitch in and show a bit of effort.
Allow him to be in charge of the honeymoon
There’s so much stress and pressure involved with planning the wedding that it may be what’s scaring him off the most. As the first official getaway as husband and wife, (and probably the first time you’ll truly be alone for more than a few hours since the “I dos”) the honeymoon is much less intimidating. Plus he’ll probably love the opportunity to surprise you with something fun and romantic. Give him a bit of an incentive and tell him that if he helps plan a few things here and there, the honeymoon is all his.
Reel him in with all the fun stuff
Let’s be honest; it’s going to be pretty difficult to get any man excited about floral arrangements. However, we’d be willing to bet that if you started to talk more about the music, dinner and bar menu, and honeymoon, his ears would perk up a little bit more. Additionally, we’d hope that your guy would want some sort of say in what he and his groomsmen wear down the aisle. Hey, we could be wrong – but having the liberty to add a bit of personal flare to his wedding day look may get him more excited to talk about the big day.
Be open and honest about how you feel
If you’re stressed out and aggravated over his lack of help, sit him down and have a serious talk. Chances are, he has absolutely no idea the toll this is all taking on you, so letting him know that his disinterest in lending a hand for your wedding day isn’t okay. If he’s truly the man you fell in love with, he’ll immediately offer his assistance. It’s probably best not to expect him to be overly enthusiastic about it but hey, he loves you and he doesn’t want to see you upset. So off to the wedding registry it is!
Remember that planning your wedding should be a team effort where both of your styles and preferences are represented. You need his help in order to truly make this the best day ever.